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Acknowledging the feeling first will help your child to feel understood and will decrease resistance to the message that follows. It will also help your child learn the connection between feelings and actions,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych].
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Remember,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], saying what you think your child feels only means that you understand what it is like to be him at that moment. It does not mean you agree with what he wants to do.
The second step is to state the consequence for the behavior clearly and calmly,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], making it clear the choice belongs to the child. Notice how our example uses the word "choose" 3 times.
Finally,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you MUST follow through with the consequence immediately if the child continues with the undesirable action. Remember, children need guidance, so offer an alternative action that you find acceptable.
This model can also be used to guide older children in their decision making. Here's another example:
A - Jill,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], I know it is important to you to wear designer jeans.
C - If you choose to buy those jeans,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], we won't have enough money left to get the new shoes you want.
T - If you choose the less expensive jeans, we will have enough money to get both the new shoes and the jeans. The choice is yours.
In this example, it is important that the parent truly be willing to let Jill make her own decision, and not "rescue" her from the consequences of her choice. If she chooses the expensive jeans, she'll have to do without the new shoes.
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T - If you choose to drive within the speed limits,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], you will be able to keep on driving and you will be able to spend that money on other things. The choice is yours.
As a parent,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], part of your job is setting and teaching limits to your children until they internalize these and no longer need your guidance. Small children need to be given small choices appropriate to their age. Older children will need to make bigger decisions,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], still within the limits of what is acceptable to you as the parent. When you give your children choices, make sure you are willing to live with any of the options.相关的主题文章：

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