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Listen Hear: Listen for the meaning behind what the person is saying. We have all been guilty of listening and at the same time, not hearing what is said. In our busy work environment, we feel pressed to move onto "more important things". When racing thoughts of "more important things" are compounded with a strong desire to win a disagreement, it makes sense that we have so many needless disagreements. Next time you have a disagreement, instead of using your non-speaking time as mental-ammo stockpiling, put forth the effort to hear what the other person is saying. It may be that easy. Body Language: Words of peace mean nothing mixed with signs of war. How many times have you been in a disagreement with someone and the person says he is not mad? His head had smoke coming off the top of it,giuseppe zanotti shoes, but he insists he is not mad. Are you guilty of doing this? You may be saying all the right things to resolve the issue, but your body language is screaming, "this person is such a pain!" You will not get the resolution you are hoping for if the person does not believe what you are saying be conscious of your body language. I not You: Remember to use "I" when stating your feelings. My dad used to always say "nobody can make you do anything." As a child I did not understand,isabelle marant sneakers, after all, he made me do stuff all the time. However, I have learned that although I often do things for others, I always do it by my own free will. Whenever we get upset, it is always by choice. Own your feelings; instead of saying "you make me so mad when you roll your eyes,Isabel Marant, you don't respect me," try saying, "when I notice you rolling your eyes,cheap isabel marant, I take that to mean you are not respecting what I have to say." Swap Shoes: Put yourself in their shoes to understand why they disagree. 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What good is it to win one battle if it costs you the war? It is amazing how one small disagreement can cause so much damage. Limiting this type of damage is crucial. The above tips will help you avoid those molehills turning into mountains. There is one catch; you must be willing to follow the tips, even in the heat of the moment. The good news is if you follow them, you will avoid those pointless "na-uh"/"uh-huh" debates. Kearns Advantage works with business owners and leaders to improve results, guaranteed! Kevin holds a Master of Science degree in Organization Development from Central Washington University and is a member of the Coachville Graduate School of Coaching. 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